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How is Your Balance Today?

In previous blogs, I have focused mainly on the ‘taking action’ side of things when I get people talking about their GRIT. What to do, how to do it and outcomes that might be possible after tackling an action. A friend just sent me this quote and I think it’s an important reminder of the opposite perspective; we need to balance effort and ease when we’re showing up for ourselves! Even before knowing about this quote, I have tried to remind myself of these exact messages on a regular basis. The quote is:

You are resilient and need a break.

You gave your all and need to back out.

You are independent and still need others.

You were sure and things changed.

You are kind and have boundaries.

Others have it worse and your pain is valid.

You did your best and now you know more.

I have a lot of nicknames and I’ll share them on the Grow My GRIT podcast someday! However, one of my oldest and dearest nicknames is ‘Energizer’ which I earned as a counsellor at Camp Koinonia almost 25 years ago! It stuck because people who have known me for 30 years or 30 minutes often say that I keep going and going and going just like the Energizer bunny. In fact, my very first tattoo was a battery with Energizer written on it and the letter ‘i’ is a flower 🌼! Some people wonder if I even sleep so here’s a glimpse “behind-the-scenes” as evidence that I do have a slow gear! I do sleep, and sometimes I do not even make it to my bed before I crash and take a quick siesta!!! 

Last October, I celebrated the first anniversary of Gritty Guru Company. Last month, I released my first GRIT book. Now I spend a lot of time talking with friends, clients and readers to get ideas on how I can expand my offerings to serve my fellow GRITizens.  I dedicate a lot of time to writing so I can stay on top of things but there are instances when I’ve fallen asleep on my laptop. Other times, I find myself staring at the same three words on a page with nooooo idea what they mean because my brain is too tired to process them. When it gets to either of these points, I remind myself that I need to stop and take a break which may mean going to bed, changing my environment or maybe even expending energy to refuel after sitting for a long time. Yoga, spinning and walking are my top three choices!

I can also think of times that I put hours and hours into creating content that I thought would be relevant and timely only to discover that it’s not right for any of my clients. Ultimately, I know I need to back out and stop trying to make it work even though letting go of creative content feels awful. I also know there are many people whose circumstances and experiences with awful are much more difficult than mine. However, as the quote says, I need to remember that the difficulties I encounter are real and valid. When I am able to identify the difficulties in my life, I can find a path to learning from them and either accepting the situation or changing the situation if possible. 

One of the most powerful lines in this quote is the last one: You did your best and now you know more. Mistakes are an opportunity to learn and I can tell you that I have learned a lot by embracing all of the mistakes I’ve made along my entrepreneurial journey. Every time we put our best foot forward, or really any foot forward, we are learning and making progress. 

While you are knowing, growing and showing your GRIT, take time to find your balance. Take time to appreciate how far you have come and know that there are no steps backward. Ahead of you there are new paths, new opportunities to make new choices as well as options to stay the course with a new perspective when you’re ready.

Which line about balance in the quote do you need to internalize while you are busy racing through your days?

Who Needs a Grip?

In 2020, I invited people to attend a free workshop titled “Let’s Use our GRIT to Get a Grip.”  I asked the participants to identify a difficult situation or relationship and develop a plan of engaging their GRIT in the face of that obstacle. I really appreciated the range of obstacles that participants openly shared during each session!

In this blog, I want to share with you my journey of using my GRIT to get a grip. My path to publication has been full of challenging situations as well as rewarding ones so I thought it would be neat to celebrate the release of my new book with a reflection on some of the many times when I needed to get a grip along the way. 

In case you haven’t attended the “Let’s Use our GRIT to Get a Grip”, workshop here are the four grips I proposed for discussion:

  1. Stay Afloat
  2. Avoid the Abyss
  3. Find Traction 
  4. Get Grounded

If you would like to know more about how these grips relate to you, check out the offerings page on my website in early April! Here is a brief description of the four grips and my personal experience with each one along my path to publication. 

  1. Stay Afloat: this type of grip is the most relevant when you feel stuck, alone and surrounded by something that’s trying to pull you down (i.e., feels like clinging to a life preserver out in the middle of an ocean without any land or landmarks in sight). 

I have lost count of how many decisions and revisions I’ve had to make as a self-published author! There were a lot of times when I felt like the hardest job was keeping on top of the decisions and revisions. A related challenge was searching for resources to help me make the most informed decision and then actually making the decision to keep the publication process moving along.

  1. Avoid the Abyss: this type of grip is most relevant when you feel tense, stretched beyond your limit and hanging onto something in an effort to avoid an unknown or uncomfortable situation (i.e., feels like clutching or grasping the side of a cliff with the sense of hanging on by a thread). 

I am totally out of my element when it comes to knowing the “ins and outs” of some amazing online platforms for book lovers such as BookBub and Goodreads. There are millions of people sharing millions of thoughts about what seems like millions of books every minute of every day. That seems like a bottomless pit of information and sometimes I’m on the edge, afraid to take the plunge for more than 15 minutes at a time.

  1. Find Traction: this grip is most relevant when you feel like you’re moving out of control and you just need your tires or your feet to make contact with some sort of surface (i.e., feels like giving everything you’ve got but spinning your wheels and not going anywhere).

Each time I spend 15 minutes in one of the online platforms, I feel like I just need to focus on learning about one thing instead of fluctuating back and forth between ideas for where to start doing the work.

  1. Get Grounded: this grip is most relevant when you feel as though a change of perspective or taking a step back will provide a different lens for processing a challenging situation (i.e., feels like your future-self or your higher power giving you a hug or resting a hand on your shoulder for reassurance that you’ll get through).

For me, realizing that I had full access to Gratitude, Resilience, Imagination and Time (i.e., my GRIT) in the face of each challenging situation was what allowed me to get grounded and keep moving forward one step at a time on this journey.

Do you have a situation or relationship in your life that makes you feel as though you need to get a better grip? Do you want to learn more about calling on your GRIT in a challenging situation and using it to get that grip? You can grab a copy of Know, Grow and Show Your GRIT: Self-Discovery Made Simple, connect with me anytime for a 1:1 session or check out my offerings page in April!

Do You See What I See?

Warning: This is the longest blog EVER because a conversation got me so excited and I still can’t hide it!

Alright….. Do you see what I see?

My entrepreneurial journey has been a somewhat fluid one so far. While the path ahead twists and turns, I try my best to pick up every life lesson available to me along the way. By doing this, I discovered my LOVE for teaching yoga in 2020.  Do you want to know something cool? GRIT (e.g., one’s default setting in the face of obstacles) and yoga go so well together. Better than I could have imagined, even better than pancakes and maple syrup!

When I started teaching yoga, I immediately saw the links between yoga and GRIT; my mind went crazy thinking of all the ways I can connect the two and build a series to share with all of you.  More on this to come, I promise, but here is a bit of foreshadowing!

I wanted to share with you a text conversation I had with an incredible person who gives and gives of her own time and energy but often takes care of her needs last. By the time she is ready to do something for herself, she is usually exhausted! Six months ago, she took important steps toward making more time for meeting her own needs. Whether or not she fully understood what she was doing, she was growing and showing her GRIT.

Here is the conversation which unfolded on a Sunday evening less than one week after she committed to practicing Baptiste Power Yoga twice a week with me. Her practice is still going strong, and I love how she is slowly starting to see and appreciate what was inside of her all along – a focused and powerful human who is throwing her GRIT down all over the place!

Yogi – I’m probably going to sit in front of the TV for the next couple of hours or so. Which three poses do you recommend for me to do?

Me – I recommend three mini-series because you’re stronger than you think. Start by stretching and warming up your wrists! Then, shift back and forth between High Plank and Downward-Facing Dog until your arms feel like Jell-O. Next, move into Table Top pose for a few breaths and repeat! Take Warrior 1 for five breaths, open to Warrior 2 for five breaths and then push/jump forward to Warrior 3 for five breaths. Repeat on the other side.

Yogi – Lol thanks friend! I’m gonna start with the wrists and see how far I get. Here I go to my mat!

Me – Slow and steady wins the race.

Yogi – Very true. Thank you for the words of wisdom.

Me – You’re most welcome! Thanks for being you!

Yogi – LOL Haze right now the wrists exercises are amazing.

Me – Perfect!

Yogi – Do I inhale in Downward Dog to dig my heels in deeper?

Me – Nope! Inhale to lift your hips up and back then exhale your heels down (or toward the ground if they don’t touch the floor). You can also exhale your chest closer to your thighs. That should feel better (like you’re melting on your exhale). You can also inhale some weight out of your wrists and exhale some weight into the knuckles of your thumbs/index fingers. And, of course, remember to inhale possibility then exhale doubt once in a while. You can also inhale faith in your abilities and exhale fear of your abilities.

Yogi – Got it inhale faith exhale fear. I’m listening to my body and there is a sore spot in my right bicep area. I went into child’s pose LOL. Sorry for bothering you with this. It must be a sign, just Downward Dog and Child’s pose tonight.

Me – Yesssss for Child’s pose! It’s always available to you and this is not a bother. That might be a growing pain because you’re using muscles that you’ve never used before. It will work itself out (become less sore and used to the work) once you build it up some more. You can also rock back and forth between Child’s pose and Table Top if that’s less intense. I love that you’re spontaneously busting out yoga moves after just one class.

Yogi – K I’ll do that. LOL I’m just sitting here watching the Emmys. Better to do something instead of sitting and eating.

Me – So true.

Yogi – I’m really looking forward to incorporating yoga into my life. 

Me – You’re already incorporating yoga into your life!!! When you were watching these awards last year, would you have imagined yourself doing spontaneous yoga this year while taking in the show?

Yogi – Heck no! I was probably eating wings.

Me – Exactly! The transition has taken effect and there will still be days when you choose wings or cookies above any form of movement. You just might crave fewer wings and cookies than you did before!

Yogi – LOL Haze! I’ve made the adjustments that you recommended. Gotta practice. Oh my! That would be the ultimate transformation!

Me – Just keep listening to your body and balancing out the work as much as possible. You can also engage your core even more because that helps make less work for your limbs. We tend to rely on our extremities but there are lots of core muscles available if we recruit them.

Yogi – I know with your guidance I’ll get there.

In July 2019, I started my business to help individuals know, grow and show their GRIT because it’s so exciting when people acknowledge the marvellousness residing inside them. I have the privilege of knowing so many people who do amazing things such as creating art (e.g., visual, music, dance), supporting others, teaching others, building things, serving their community and being true superhumans for those around them. Something interesting with a lot of these beautiful people is that, in light of their commitment to their families, friends and communities, many of them don’t realize how little they give to themselves. Helping a person to see that they can make space to support their needs while also meeting the needs of others is one of my favourite things to do.  As I continue to journey with others who want to know, grow and show their GRIT, I realize how blessed I am.

What is something in your life that you love doing and maybe you’re not prioritizing it or doing enough of it? Where in your life can you start doing a little bit more of it?

I’m So Grateful for a GRIT-ful Year!

Exactly one year ago, I launched Gritty Guru Company with the intention of helping others embark on the journey to know, grow and show their GRIT. Happy first anniversary to me! I cannot believe that a full year has gone by and I cannot believe that my basket of blessings is still overflowing! This blog is all about naming and celebrating the biggest blessings of the last 12 months even though each blessing is cause for celebration and gratitude regardless of its size 🙂

Blessing #1 – People! Yes, you. I have always enjoyed meeting and getting to know gritty people and this year was no exception. I have met so many new people, reconnected with other people and seen new sides of some familiar people. Before starting my business, I regularly supported GRIT grow-ers, know-ers and show-ers in many contexts without using any specific term for what I was doing. I really love the chance to help others articulate their awesomeness and manifest their magnificence! Over this past year, I have had the absolute pleasure of journeying alongside some seriously Gritty Gurus. Thank you so much for inviting me on your journey to see and feel all of your gritty goodness!

Blessing #2 – Yoga! It’s very easy for people who know me to see why yoga is one of my top three blessings in the last year! I have done about 350 hours of yoga in the last 12 months because time on my mat continually provides me with the opportunity to know, grow and show my own GRIT. This past July, I was nominated for a diversity scholarship to attend teacher training hosted by the Baptiste Power Yoga Institute. Had you asked me 6 months ago if I was ever planning to be a yoga teacher, my answer would have been a firm “NO”! Not because I didn’t think I could do it, but because I didn’t want to know what the teachers know! I completed the six-day ‘Digital Level One: Journey Into Power’ teacher training on August 6th and I’ve already taught 49 hours of classes. Next comes teacher training with Power Yoga Canada in early 2021 thanks to another diversity scholarship. No one is more surprised than I am by all of this! However, the fit with grit is soooooo natural that I’m developing a yoga workshop for people to know, grow, show and flow their GRIT 🙂

Blessing #3 – 2020! Wait, what?!? 2020… a blessing?! In some ways, yes. It’s true that the harsh reality of COVID-19 and its devastating effects around the world are beyond comprehension. I do not want to minimize the suffering and pain that people have felt due to contracting the disease, losing loved ones to it and living with more restrictions than any of us imagined. In the face of all this loss and uncertainty, I am constantly amazed that so many people, knowingly or not, have planted their feet in the ground and found some grit to persevere through this year of extraordinarily difficult circumstances. This year has forced us to do almost everything differently than we did in the past. I’m inspired by how many people have taken the time to get to know themselves and make shifts that may not have even been feasible a year ago!

Putting it all together…

365 days + 350 hours of yoga + 18 online GRIT workshops + 15 blogs = 100,000,000 times that my heart has almost exploded with joy from the blessings I have received!

If you’re ready to join me and many others on the journey of knowing, growing and showing our GRIT, send me a message (@growmygrit on Instagram or Facebook). I can say from repeated experience that the adventure often takes you where you least expect to go and your GRIT will help you navigate the way.


How Are You Getting Through?

I realized last week that we are now moving into our sixth calendar month of living with countless restrictions as the global community continues to combat COVID-19. That’s already one half of 2020 spent in some form of lockdown! Although, I am not claiming to be psychic, I feel like I can say without a doubt that many aspects of our world have changed significantly for the foreseeable future. Wow!

If anyone had asked me in February how I thought the rest of 2020 was going to unfold, our current reality would not have crossed my mind. I don’t think anyone I know would have or could have predicted it! In light of this revelation, whenever I get into a conversation about living with the constraints of COVID-19, I ask people “How are you getting through?”

I’m always curious to hear how my friends and family have adapted their lifestyles and adjusted to this new reality. Additionally, I want to get people talking about all of the little things they’ve done to set themselves up for success! As I have mentioned before, these are gritty times and these gritty times have called for more grit than most of us even knew we had available deep down inside.

You all know my love of words by now and here’s another haze-ism: GRITuals. It’s a not-so-fancy word to label all of the routines and rituals I’ve been repeating each day or week to navigate this ongoing challenge! Sometimes we need a whole lot of grit to navigate a giant obstacle and other times we need to dig down and muster up enough grit do the same thing over and over and over again.

Three GRITuals that have become helpful for me are:

  • taking a few minutes each day to remind myself of the things I want to accomplish (e.g., spend a certain amount of time doing some form of cardio, call or text that person who’s been on my mind, play outside).
  • taking a few minutes in each day to identify possible obstacles that may pop up and making a plan to navigate or overcome them.
  • writing down everything I eat because I find it sooo easy to forget how much I’ve snacked between meals while working from home all the time. From the middle of March until the end of May, if I thought I was hungry, I’d check my list. I wasn’t counting calories or thinking about nutritional information; it was simply a confirmation that I just ate so I wasn’t really hungry. By June, I knew what hungry felt like and I realized I had completely curbed my snack attacks!

Looking back, what are some of the GRITuals you’ve developed over the last few months? Which ones have become a part of your day-to-day routine(s)?

Would You Rather Be a Pirate or Join the Navy?

In some of the previous blogs, I’ve written about grit as a trait that can define a family or even a culture. Now, during these times of self-isolating and physical distancing, I’ve started to think about other moments in history where people were forced to face significant changes in their day-to-day routines with little or no notice. How did these people adapt or change? Who came out on top and survived the chaos of the times?

As I thought about what I’d learned from some great history teachers, I came up with MANY instances where people were forced to dig deep and find a part of themselves that they likely didn’t even know existed. However, there is one group of gritty gurus that sticks out in my mind a bit more than the others. These people were able to survive and often thrive in times where each day looked totally different than the day before. More important, if they didn’t find their grit within, they might not have lived to see another day.

If you haven’t already guessed it, I’m talking about Pirates! For this particular group, the time or situation in history wasn’t more daunting than any of the others I considered; it’s just that their ability to beat the odds definitely sounds gritty to me! I’m hoping by the end of this blog you’ll agree how easy it is to “Arrrrrgh”-gue that Pirates totally fit the bill for a group of gritty gurus.

Sam Conniff’s “Be More Pirate” from my list of GRIT Lit celebrates a pirate’s endless ability to adapt and mobilize in the face of obstacles, which sounds a lot like grit to me! The front cover of his book references a classic quote from Steve Jobs to his Development Team in 1983: “I’d rather be a pirate than join the navy.” A thoughtful explanation of this pirate “call-to-action” appears in Fast Company. In it, the writer explains how Steve Jobs built his company by hiring employees who had the pirate mindset; pirates can stay creative and on-task in a challenging or hostile environment and they can operate when rules, as well as safety nets, break down.

Most people will agree that the first half of 2020 has exemplified a hostile and challenging time where the rules and our safety nets change daily, sometimes hourly. So, when met with a hostile environment, stressful situations and uncertain times, what better way to face the day than by being a little more pirate? Sam guides us through five fundamental principles of the pirate code to get us thinking about ways we can facilitate change as individuals and as a community.

Rebel – draw strength by standing up to the status quo.

Rewrite – bend, break, but, most important, rewrite the rules.

Reorganize – collaborate to achieve scale rather than growth.

Redistribute – fight for fairness, share power and make an enemy of exploitation.

Retell – weaponize your story, then tell the hell out of it.

In other words, he is encouraging us to know our grit, grow our grit and show our grit! These days, we need a level of grit unlike any other time we’ve seen in recent history. Relying on our inner pirate could be what gets us through.

As a testament to Apple’s love of pirate culture, a pirate flag has flown over the head office on more than one occasion. So, will you raise your flag, shout “Arrrrrgh” and challenge yourself to join me on a gritty Pirate adventure, unlike anything you’ve seen before?

What’s GRIT Got to Do with It?

As we navigate this planet-wide pandemic, an important question we can consider each day is “What do I have to offer others?”

It’s easy to become introspective at times like this but that’s how we end up focusing on our fears, all the things we cannot do and how out-of-control most things are that were in our control only a few weeks, days or even hours ago. With never-ending access to information about all of the things that are beyond our control right now, it can be easy to lose sight of the simple gestures and the choices that are fully in our control. I know that it may sound counterintuitive when we’re bombarded with the terms “self-quarantine”, “social distancing” and “isolation”. However, there are times when the best thing we can do for our friends, family and community isn’t doing something with them directly; it’s keeping them in the centre of our hearts as well as our minds.

In order to support my friends, my family and my community, I commit to the following GRIT during this collective pause:

G is for give healing energy to those who are suffering physically, mentally or spiritually. I’m fortunate to be in good health so I can send love and strength to people I know as well as people I don’t know.

R is for recharge regularly. I can’t be a rock for others if my foundation is crumbling so I’m making time to do things I love each day with people I love. Shout out to Power Yoga Canada’s online community!

I is for illuminate any darkness I encounter by making space for it and investigating. Whether it be through a smile, a listening ear or encouraging words, I can offer a little bit of light in these dark and difficult times.

T is for tolerate uncertainty because it’s the only thing that’s certain in our world right now. Going back to the fact that so much of what’s happening is beyond our control, it’s critical to accept that we really can’t imagine what tomorrow will bring.

If you were to define your GRIT in the face of this unprecedented global transformation, what can you offer to your friends, your family and your community?

What Does ‘Leveling Up’ Look Like for You?

In a previous blog named GRIT Lit, I promised to explore some of my favourite books and poems that capture all things gritty!

So, without further ado, let me introduce you to Steve Kamb. Steve wrote a fantastic book called “Level Up Your Life: How to Unlock Adventure and Happiness by Becoming the Hero of Your Own Story”.  I thought I would share this book today because I’m re-reading it as I work toward one of my impossible goals for 2020.   I can only imagine the confused expression on some of your faces when you see me referencing a book involving video games! While it’s true that the only video game I have EVER played is Tetris, Steve takes great care in making the steps relatable and conquerable. And even though there’s a bit of video game vocabulary, the book’s content resonated with me completely!

Steve shares his six-phase model for an adventurous and happy life then he challenges you to harness your inner Rebel and join the Rebellion.  Simple, right?!? His six phases are:

  1. The Call to Adventure
  2. The Hero’s Journey
  3. Crossing the Threshold – Design Your Own Game
  4. Leveling Up – Advance in the Game of Life
  5. Mastering Ordeals – Activate Beast Mode
  6. The Road Back – Continue? Or Game Over?

As I read through the book the first time and now that I’m reading it again, it’s exciting to see my new friend GRIT hanging out in between the lines and in the margins. To me, the role of GRIT is evident in each of the six phases but it’s most prominent when Steve shares his options for “Leveling Up” and “Mastering Ordeals” in life. Even though GRIT did not make it into the index, you’ll find its close friends – accountability, action, gratitude, hope, personal growth, personal limits, success and willpower – as themes covered in the book.

Without giving away too much more, the most dog-eared section in my copy of the book is the one on “Leveling Up” where Steve provides practical strategies on how to become an unstoppable force of awesomeness and how to persevere in the face of obstacles and ordeals.

While contemplating what the next level of happiness or adventure looks like for you, how can you level up your GRIT along the way?

What’s Your Impossible Goal for 2020?

I’m so grateful to my friend from elementary school, “Let’s-Do-This Lyndsay”, for introducing me to Brooke Castillo and The Life Coach School. Brooke and her team of Life Coaches offer more resources than I’ll ever be able to use! I started with the Entrepreneur courses because I still have so much to learn about running a business.  

In the monthly challenge to students for December 2019, Brooke invited us to identify one impossible goal for 2020 and 100 worthy fails that we’ll make as we work toward the goal (e.g., 25 per quarter). I jumped at the opportunity to do just that and I actually set two impossible goals for 2020! I’ve also come up with my first 25 worthy fails which I think of as small steps that will keep me travelling in the general direction of the goal. 

My first impossible goal is to deliver five workshops on GRIT in Europe this year. I love travelling to Europe and Finland is the GRIT capital of the world, so it seems like a great place to cultivate more conversations! My second impossible goal is to secure a book deal in 2020. Steve Kamb, a favourite author of mine, wrote an inspiring book called Level Up Your Life. Similar to what he did, I’d like to publish my framework and make it available to as many people as possible. Equally important, I want to use my book as a platform for celebrating the range of my family, friends and clients who made the journey to know, grow and show their GRIT in 2020.   

I’ve always thought of my own GRIT as my default setting in the face of existing obstacles. However, as a direct result of Brooke’s December challenge, I’ve been reflecting on the future-oriented element to my GRIT. So, how will my GRIT allow me to deliver workshops in Europe and get a book deal here in North America?

(G)ratitude – I’m so grateful for existing models/templates on how to write books!

(R)esilience – I’m expecting a lot of rejection letters right from the start as well as some non-responses from publishers, but I’ll learn as much as possible along the way! 

(I)magination – I’ll be putting a lot of thought into creative ways that I can curate the stories people share with me!

(T)ime – I’m setting up dedicated “book blocks” each week to re-learn as much as possible about the publication process before jumping in!

I know I have said it before, but I will say it again: my basket of business blessings is overflowing; every possible resource I need to continue along my entrepreneurial path keeps showing up at the most ideal time. As I make my way toward my impossible goals with many worthy fails along the way, I’m going to do my absolute best to stay the course! 

What do you think could be your impossible goal for 2020 and how will your GRIT help get you there?

What Have I Got to Gain?

Decisions, decisions, decisions…  According to a recent Google search, the average adult makes approximately 35,000 decisions a day. Most of those decisions are reflexive or unconscious decisions (e.g., scratching, yawning, blinking) but that means there are still a lot of conscious decisions we make on a daily basis. Some of those decisions are less involved such as “What are we going to eat for dinner?” or “Where should I go to get gas?” Even fewer of these daily decisions will be large, impactful ones such as “Should I quit my job?”, “Should we get a pet?” or “Should I go back to school?”

Often, the larger decisions are not made on a whim; they require time to weigh the pros and the cons. Whenever I’m part of conversations with people contemplating a major decision, I find that many of them tend to focus on scarcity. This, in turn, generates anxious and fearful thoughts about the potential losses which ultimately delays the decision and forces people to stick with the status quo. So often we ask ourselves, “What have I got to lose?” and a flood of answers may come. Although it’s usually a rhetorical question, sometimes we’ve got a lot to lose and sometimes we’ve got nothing to lose at all!

In my personal definition of GRIT, the ‘I’ refers to imagination and this component often prompts me to flip things around a little. For example, when it comes time to make a big decision, I tend to ask myself the question “What have I got to gain?”

I find that this subtle shift in perspective will get me energized about a situation that may otherwise appear negative. When my brain registers that I may gain something positive such as insight, perspective or guidance from a challenging situation, I start to imagine new benefits that hadn’t even crossed my mind.

So try and recall any of the 35, 000 decisions that you’ve already made today including the one where you chose to read my blog!!! By the way, thanks for sticking with it 🙂

How do you think things would be different if you approached any of the large decisions by asking yourself “What have I got to gain?”

What have you got to gain in 2020?